Have you given the fact that the people around you influence you in many different ways? They exert an incredible amount of influence over your attitude, the actions you take or fail to take, the books you read, the language you use, the way you dress and ultimately on your daily routines and behaviour. It is an undeniable fact that the people you choose to spend time around, shape how your future will turn out. Each one of them plays a major role in shaping and influencing your life and future.
Choose your Associations very Carefully
It is for this reason that you must choose the people that you allow into your space very carefully. These people will exert huge influence over the results you will get to enjoy in your life. The power that the people around you exert on your life is most often underestimated, as their influence evolves slowly over an extended period of time. Because the influence is so gradual and tiny, it doesn’t seem to matter at all.
Don’t Underestimate the Power of Peer Pressure
One of the most ignored, underestimated pressures exerted by those around you, is peer pressure. It is an insidious, subtle force, which creeps in unnoticed and gradually robs you of your potential. If you spend time around people, who are more interested in entertaining themselves than they are educating themselves, then that is the negative behavior you too will exhibit. This process is very subtle and these negative influences nudge you just a little off course each day, until you wake up one day asking, “How did I get here”
You must eliminate all the negative influences from your life if you want to succeed and create the future you desire.
If on the other hand you invest your most valuable possession, namely your time, around people that engage in positive behaviors, which enhance your potential, you will gradually improve your behavior, and you will keep improving and growing every day. Is unwise to encourage people into your life, who will guide you to engage in negative activities and behaviors that will act like a lead weight around your neck. Weighing you down.
Carry out an Audit of your Associations
Look at all your associations and assess what affect they are having on your activities, daily discipline, attitude, commitment and most importantly, what have they got you doing and thinking. Identify both the positive and negative influencers in your life. Ruthlessly eliminate the negative influencers from your life and search out and spend as much time as possible with the positive influencers. This small shift is possibly the most important change you will make on your path to success.
You are nudged off course by the wrong people
The people that you are around are taking you in a certain direction. Are you satisfied that the direction they are taking you is indeed the direction you want your life to go? Only surrounding yourself with the right positive people will take you in the direction you want to go.
This feels like a no-brainer to me, spending time with the right people, tips the scales toward a life of contentment and fulfillment, whilst spending time around negative influencers, robs you of your success and happiness. You now the advantage of awareness, what are you waiting for, get on with the job of dissociating yourself from the people, who are keeping you trapped in mediocrity.
Influence most certainly shapes our lives, our associations determine the direction our lives go and the pressures of those we associate with can overwhelm our good intentions. Choose the right people to surround yourself with and you are inviting long term sustainable success into your life.
Author: Andrew Horton